Kernal Conflict and Resolution

Kernal: Conflict and Resolution

This section is to gather Wisdom regarding Conflict and means for Resolution.

Who makes an enemy of an adversary
Has left the path of peace

Begin in friendship

Thereafter do as the other

Return kindness for kindness

Return offense with mete action

Return offense with just action

Yet caught in a cycle of offenses

Dare a kindness                                                                                                 (Axlenrod's Results)

The two most powerful warriors

Are time and patience                                                                                            (Tolstoy)

Not being tense but ready.
Not thinking but not dreaming.
Not being set but flexible.
Liberation from the uneasy sense of confinement.
It is being wholly and quietly alive,
aware and alert,
ready for whatever may come.                                                                                                 (Lee)

Victory is reserved for those willing to pay its price.                                        (Sun Tzu)

Hard vs Soft vs Principled Negotiation

Decide issues on their merits. Look for mutual gains whenever possible. Where interests conflict, insist that the result be based on some fair standards independent of the will of either side. Be hard on the merits; be soft on the people. Good faith (no tricks, no posturing).

Recognize that all negotiation determines rules, which are separate from content.

Obtain what you are entitled to while remaining decent.

Be fair while protecting yourself from advantage taken of that fairness.

Wise Agreement

Any method of negotiation may be fairly judged by three criteria:

1. It should produce a wise agreement if agreement is possible.
2. It should be efficient.
3. It should improve or at least not damage the relationship between parties.

Wise Agreement - One that meets the legitimate interests of each side to the extent possible, resolves conflicting interests fairly, is durable, and takes community interests into account.

Four Principles

Negotiate toward a wise outcome, efficiently and amicably.

1. Separate the people from the problem.
2. Focus on interests, not positions.
3. Invent options for mutual gain.
4. Insist on using objective criteria.